We all have drama in our family life occasionally. Most of us relate to jokes about holiday events getting ruined by fights or grudges, and usually these jokes are made with love. After all, it would be nearly impossible to find a close group of people with differing opinions who don’t experience conflict from time to time.
However, when this conflict becomes disruptive to our lives and mental health, it can be especially troubling. Not only is it difficult to get space from the people you see so regularly, but there are also social taboos when it comes to family problems. We are taught to be respectful and grateful towards our family members, but when this doesn’t align with our experience, we may feel guilt and shame.
No matter how much we want a happy family, we may struggle to talk things out without arguing, and if the conflict is ongoing, we may lose hope that it will ever change. For situations like these, professional family counselling can help to restore the peace in your most precious relationships.
There are just as many reasons for family conflict as there are types of families. From blood-related families to foster and adoptive families, blended families and extended families, single parents, separated parents, same-sex parents and step-parents – all can benefit from family therapy.
There may be a court order in place for those who need to resolve their family law disputes, or issues like family violence which can cause long-term alienation in family relationships. Sensitive issues are often difficult to process as a unit, including blended or step family tensions, death or illness of a family member, financial struggles, or divorce and separation.
For both small and big families, counselling services provide a safe and unbiased space to work through all kinds of issues. Even if you think your problems are minor, if you would like a better relationship with your family, then this support service is for you.
What does family counselling do?
A good family counsellor recognises that family can be one of the most vital sources of emotional wellbeing in our lives. Whether it’s blood family, step family, or chosen family, the support we receive from healthy, cooperative relationships with family members can go a long way towards protecting us from mental health problems like depression, low self-worth or loneliness.
As such, counselling is one of the most effective ways to regain this valuable source of support in our lives. If the will to strengthen our relationships is there, counselling will help us to:
Identify and break cycles of hurtful interaction
Recognise passive aggressive or blaming behaviour
Understand and empathise with the perspectives of each family member
Learn how to communicate calmly and respectfully about difficult topics
Maintain an open, considerate mindset during conflicts
Celebrate the positive things that make your family special
What happens during counselling sessions?
Family counselling usually involves the attendance of two or more family members. However, it could be initiated by just one member, or that one member may benefit from one-on-one counselling in regard to their family concerns. Either way, the counsellor will usually begin with an open conversation, then explore a more targeted and evidence-based plan of action.
This could mean Cognitive Behavioural Family Therapy (CBFT), to emphasise positive interactions over negative ones in a transformative way, or something like Strategic Family Therapy (SFT), to break harmful habits. But whatever the method, they will help you to form achievable goals that meet every member’s needs, and to provide a relationship education that ensures lasting positive change.
By having a professional mediator in the room, we are encouraged to listen more attentively and speak more freely, without fear of interruption. Young people might find this especially helpful, as they may not feel heard during adult conflicts. And, if a specific family member does not wish to attend, family counselling can still be very helpful in navigating a healthy relationship with them.
How SHYNE Wellness can help
For family counselling that reunites your loved ones and strengthens your bonds, SHYNE Wellness is here to help.
The life coaches and counsellors at SHYNE Wellness come highly qualified and highly recommended. Certified in areas that underpin many family struggles, including relationship coaching, communication skills, and child/teen support, the range of specialists at SHYNE Wellness can address the root cause of any problem your family faces.
As a dedicated member of the Australian Counselling Association and International Coaching Federation, founder Poli brings a wide range of techniques to the table. Even if you feel like the love in your home is lost forever, with SHYNE Wellness, you’re bound to find an approach that works for you. With services covering many different styles of counselling from spiritual practises to neuroscience, you can rediscover the healthy family beneath the heartache.
Getting the help you need doesn’t have to be overwhelming.
The reality is we all have feelings and emotions and we all need healthy outlets to explore, understand, express and grow from these feelings and emotions.
Poli can help you start this process.
Explore mixed feelings
Achieve clarity and acknowledgement
Learn effective communication strategies
Support more positive thinking
Inspire effective problem-solving
Boost self-confidence and self-esteem
Explore the balance between personal goals and relationship priorities
Counsellor and Life Coach
Poli is a multi-talented and committed Counsellor and Life Coach who is sincerely passionate about supporting her clients through their issues. Poli is a member of the Australian Counselling Association and International Coaching Federation and has assisted clients worldwide. She specialises in working with adolescents, couples, adults and families. Poli provides practical support that a client can use immediately to help them move forward in life.
Poli is a very warm, understanding and patient Counsellor and Life Coach who truly enjoys seeing her clients achieve success in their life. She listens compassionately and guides the client using forward thinking techniques that help them create a better future for themselves. Her extensive educational training gives her the ability to listen and coach clients through their problems in a way in which they feel empowered and inspired.
International Coach Federation
Australian Counselling Association
The American Board of NLP
The Australian Board of NLP
Australian Reiki Association
Time Line Therapy Association
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If you’re unable to schedule an appointment and are feeling overwhelmed and would like immediate counselling and support, please call (0417 616 406).