We all have drama in our family life occasionally. Most of us relate to jokes about holiday events getting ruined by fights or grudges, and usually these jokes are made with love. After all, it would be nearly impossible to find a close group of people with differing opinions who don’t experience conflict from time to time.
However, when this conflict becomes disruptive to our lives and mental health, it can be especially troubling. Not only is it difficult to get space from the people you see so regularly, but there are also social taboos when it comes to family problems. We are taught to be respectful and grateful towards our family members, but when this doesn’t align with our experience, we may feel guilt and shame.
No matter how much we want a happy family, we may struggle to talk things out without arguing, and if the conflict is ongoing, we may lose hope that it will ever change. For situations like these, professional family counselling can help to restore the peace in your most precious relationships.
There are just as many reasons for family conflict as there are types of families. From blood-related families to foster and adoptive families, blended families and extended families, single parents, separated parents, same-sex parents and step-parents – all can benefit from family therapy.
There may be a court order in place for those who need to resolve their family law disputes, or issues like family violence which can cause long-term alienation in family relationships. Sensitive issues are often difficult to process as a unit, including blended or step family tensions, death or illness of a family member, financial struggles, or divorce and separation.
For both small and big families, counselling services provide a safe and unbiased space to work through all kinds of issues. Even if you think your problems are minor, if you would like a better relationship with your family, then this support service is for you.
A good family counsellor recognises that family can be one of the most vital sources of emotional wellbeing in our lives. Whether it’s blood family, step family, or chosen family, the support we receive from healthy, cooperative relationships with family members can go a long way towards protecting us from mental health problems like depression, low self-worth or loneliness.
As such, counselling is one of the most effective ways to regain this valuable source of support in our lives. If the will to strengthen our relationships is there, counselling will help us to:
Family counselling usually involves the attendance of two or more family members. However, it could be initiated by just one member, or that one member may benefit from one-on-one counselling in regard to their family concerns. Either way, the counsellor will usually begin with an open conversation, then explore a more targeted and evidence-based plan of action.
This could mean Cognitive Behavioural Family Therapy (CBFT), to emphasise positive interactions over negative ones in a transformative way, or something like Strategic Family Therapy (SFT), to break harmful habits. But whatever the method, they will help you to form achievable goals that meet every member’s needs, and to provide a relationship education that ensures lasting positive change.
By having a professional mediator in the room, we are encouraged to listen more attentively and speak more freely, without fear of interruption. Young people might find this especially helpful, as they may not feel heard during adult conflicts. And, if a specific family member does not wish to attend, family counselling can still be very helpful in navigating a healthy relationship with them.
For family counselling that reunites your loved ones and strengthens your bonds, SHYNE Wellness is here to help.
The life coaches and counsellors at SHYNE Wellness come highly qualified and highly recommended. Certified in areas that underpin many family struggles, including relationship coaching, communication skills, and child/teen support, the range of specialists at SHYNE Wellness can address the root cause of any problem your family faces.
As a dedicated member of the Australian Counselling Association and International Coaching Federation, founder Poli brings a wide range of techniques to the table. Even if you feel like the love in your home is lost forever, with SHYNE Wellness, you’re bound to find an approach that works for you. With services covering many different styles of counselling from spiritual practises to neuroscience, you can rediscover the healthy family beneath the heartache.
Simply phone 0417 616 406 or email info@shynewellness.com.au to learn how Poli and SHYNE Wellness can help!
The reality is we all have feelings and emotions and we all need healthy outlets to explore, understand, express and grow from these feelings and emotions.
Poli can help you start this process.
Poli is a multi-talented and committed Counsellor and Life Coach who is sincerely passionate about supporting her clients through their issues. Poli is a member of the Australian Counselling Association and International Coaching Federation and has assisted clients worldwide. She specialises in working with adolescents, couples, adults and families. Poli provides practical support that a client can use immediately to help them move forward in life.
Poli is a very warm, understanding and patient Counsellor and Life Coach who truly enjoys seeing her clients achieve success in their life. She listens compassionately and guides the client using forward thinking techniques that help them create a better future for themselves. Her extensive educational training gives her the ability to listen and coach clients through their problems in a way in which they feel empowered and inspired.
Poli offers a wide range of expertise in areas such as couples, relationship, marriage and family counselling and life coaching. Her skill set also includes communication, goal setting, anxiety, depression, stress, mental health, mindfulness, life balance, motivation, confidence, advice, healing, trauma, well-being, mentoring, self-development, and mindset strategies. Poli is a certified Counsellor, Emotionally Focused Therapist, a certified Master Life Coach, a certified NLP Master Practitioner, Archetype Coach, a Reiki Master, and is proficient in mindfulness meditation, A.C.T therapy, Palmistry, and Face Reading. Poli is affiliated with and registered under the International Coach Federation and the Australian Counselling Association.
If you’re unable to schedule an appointment and are feeling overwhelmed and would like immediate counselling and support, please call (0417 616 406).
Rebecca Kennedy | |
With such a broad unique skill set you can’t be in safer hands. Poli is so warm and approachable you feel at ease right from the outset. I highly recommend Poli, she genuinely cares about her clients and is invested in helping you achieve a positive outcome. She is a wonder! |
Julie O’Brien | |
Poli is truly a gifted and extraordinary visionary. Her humble character truly is an outstanding quality. Poli has a unique approach of being able to pinpoint the problem quickly and lead the individual to clarity and deep awareness. My personal experience has been enlightening and enabled me to shift through deep emotional blocks quickly. I rarely use the word Guru, yet in this case I would describe Poli as an enlightened Guru of soul blueprints, who truly is servants heart for those seeking deep insights and emotional healing. |
Liv | |
I have really appreciated Poli’s guidance over the last few months which has allowed me to make positive changes in my life and mindset. She intuitively knows when to say the right thing and also to challenge you in a kind and respectful manner. I would highly recommend her to anyone that is looking to make changes toward living a more authentic life. |
Tünel Hulusi | |
The moment you meet Poli, you feel her warmth and energy around you like a big hug. Poli has played an integral role in helping me navigate this thing we call “life”… her guidance brings logic and comfort to the ebbs and flows of our journey and there is no one else I’d want as my beacon of light through it all. From the very bottom of my heart, with infinite gratitude, always- T x |
Rachael | |
I have been searching for years for a genuine counsellor that has the knowledge and expertise that Poli has. She is as genuine as they come, tells it as is it and has the knowledge to back it up while still remaining caring and compassionate. I feel very lucky to have been supported by Poli at a time when it made a world of difference. I feel like I owe her so much. Thank you for everything Poli, your support has meant more than you will ever know. We need more people like this in the world. |
Ruby Robertson | |
After years of talking therapy, with not many results, Poli was recommended to me. She has an ability to empathise like no professional I have met, which did finally produce results. |
Emily Orcullo | |
I had the opportunity to do peer coaching with Poli and she truly comes with a wealth of experience in this space. She is a highly intuitive coach, she can draw out what is underlying behind the problem. Thank you, Poli! |
Prince Dib | |
Poli’s unwavering support and guidance has been a blessing through difficult times and she has been paramount in the growth in so many places in my life. Thank you Poli! |
Bron.e | |
Poli’s extensive knowledge, experience, care and compassion are the gifts she brings to every session where she gently guides me to explore and question things that are challenging me or holding me back. For me, each session builds on the last and I feel so privileged to have found Poli to help me become the best version of myself. I can’t thank you enough Poli for everything you do and all that you are. 🌻 |
Laudie Lambert | |
I have known Poli for many years and without a doubt, she has helped me in my darkest hours!
She is warm, caring and very in tune with what triggers anxiety and panic attacks, and to this day, cannot thank her enough! I highly recommend Poli and am positive you will be more than satisfied with your consultation and communication with her! Laudie Lambert |
Tini Ch | |
Poli is a very skilled and compassionate professional who has allowed me to speak freely, without judgement. She is helping me understand the root cause of my actions and reactions. Poli has given me a safe place to examine my feelings and behaviours and her counsel and advice is invaluable. Thank you Poli. |
yael kollan | |
Poli is very rare in her field. She has the ability to analyze the situation and know exactly what is going on. Through her extensive clinical experience, she allows the patient to observe himself sincerely. Poli has the ability to change your life! Highly recommended!!! |
Sim Stevens | |
Poli is an extraordinary woman with an amazing ability to read people and their needs. The way in which Poli communicates with people is calming and reassuring, while always encouraging you to live your best life with new and wonderful skills. 🙂 |
Bevan East | |
I’ve been a patient here for a few years, particularly of the psychology department with Poli. To say I have found it extremely beneficial is an understatement. I have developed skills and an understanding of myself that is difficult to describe. But has had a monumental impact on my life. Starting out with high levels of anxiety and depression, my ability to control my emotions and harness abilities more effectively has seen positive aspects in my social life, relationships, work life and studies. I would recommend this clinic to anyone who wants to solve their problems, improve their life and or more effectively and efficiently communicate. |