There are many situations where anger is a valid and even helpful response. Asserting your boundaries when others overstep, for example, can be a positive way to channel your anger. However, some of us have more trouble expressing anger than others. And without healthy strategies to overcome this, anger can start to impact our lives in a number of unhealthy ways.
As we all experience the emotion from time to time, it can be difficult to tell when we could benefit from the guidance of a health professional. For those of us who suspect that our relationship with anger may be contributing to negative outcomes for ourselves and the people around us, it is important to know that there is no shame in seeking help.
Working with a qualified counsellor who specialises in anger management can improve all aspects of our lives, from personal and social to professional.
Although the warning signs that we’re experiencing anger can be quite intense, it’s our response to these emotional and physical signs that can wreak the most havoc in our lives.
Physical signs like increasing tension or a feeling of heat can lead to emotional outbursts that affect our relationships. This is why it’s often conflicts between partners which reveal the severity of an anger issue. If you notice that outbursts or passive aggressive behaviour are disrupting your home life, job, or career, this may be a sign to seek expert advice.
When anger is accompanied by aggression, such as punching holes in walls or lashing out at others, we may be very aware of the problem, but anger can also be turned inward. Depression, anxiety, lack of sleep, substance abuse, and many other conditions can be indications that we might benefit from anger management counselling.
Unfortunately, leaving a serious anger issue unchecked can sabotage our lives in many areas. Lost jobs, bad financial decisions, upended careers, broken relationships and even criminal offences can result.
On top of this, there is solid research to suggest that anger issues take their toll on our physical health as well. Although the fight or flight response that precedes an angry reaction can be crucial to our survival, it can also be hard on our bodies. Raised blood pressure along with an increased risk of heart attacks, are linked to problems with anger.
There is also significant risk to our mental health. Whether we have to deal with the emotional fallout from our actions, or with pre-existent struggles that make anger more difficult to manage, negative effects are not always visible. When anger is the result or underlying cause of mental health conditions, the solution can seem complicated, but a qualified professional will be able to assist us in detangling these webs of interconnected issues.
There are many simple techniques for managing anger when it arises. Learning to recognise our warning signs is a good first step, allowing us to time our management strategies most effectively. When we are starting to feel angry, but before we lose control, is a good time to act. These strategies could include: changing our thought patterns, temporarily removing ourselves from stressful situations, or breathing exercises. Although it may seem simple, deep breaths can go a long way towards relieving the physical signs of anger.
Depending on circumstances, lifestyle changes may also help to resolve the issue. Regular physical activity, for instance, can serve as both an outlet for stress and a natural approach to treating conditions like anxiety and depression.
However, these techniques may not be sufficient for more complex cases. If the root of our issue is not addressed, symptoms may continue to interfere with our lives despite our best efforts. For this reason, understanding where our anger comes from can be vital for its management, and this is not always easy to diagnose on our own.
For an anger management program that provides all the tools you need to manage anger independently, SHYNE Wellness is here to help.
The life coaches and counsellors at SHYNE Wellness come highly qualified and highly recommended. Certified in areas like addictions and rehabilitation, healing from trauma, relationship counselling, communication skills and much more, the range of specialists at SHYNE Wellness are able to recommend effective anger management techniques for any situation.
Controlling your temper might seem like an impossible task, but with SHYNE Wellness, you’re bound to find an approach that works for you. With services covering many different styles of counselling from spiritual practises to neuroscience, you can learn how to control your anger in ways that transform every sphere of your life.
Founder Poli Zoungas, a member of the Australian Counselling Association and International Coaching Federation, has dedicated her life to studying the many different methods of counselling. A warm, compassionate individual, she finds happiness in the success of her clients. So, if you feel that anger issues are negatively impacting your career, family life, health or relationships, phone 0417 616 406 or email [email protected] to learn how Poli and SHYNE Wellness can help you turn your life around!